‘AITA for turning up at my sister’s work?’: Woman learns about her long lost sister, surprises her at work, internet reacts

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    Rectangle - AITA for turning up at my sister's work after she told me not to bother her? "Esty told me once more to stop messaging her and to leave her alone." came in just as she was discharging me - e
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    Font - AITA for turning up at my sister's work after she told me not to bother her? I (16F) have an older sister Esty (33F). Esty and I didn't know that the other existed until 5 months ago when I had to go to the hospital for stitches. We share a dad and he came in just as she was discharging me - my mum was with me. Our surname is common. My mum didn't even know that he had an older daughter.
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    Font - Since finding out, I have wanted to know more about my sister. I've always wanted a sibling but I'm an only child. I could have done with a big sister guiding me and it turns out that I had one all along. All my dad has said is that her late mum turned her against him. He refuses to talk about her, but I did find out that they've had no contact since she was about 16. I found Esty on FB and Insta so I reached out to her. She didn't answer my first couple of messages on FB, but she only re
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    Font - When she responded she asked that I stopped liking her pictures, she has since made that account private and blocked me. I responded with asking her questions as there were pictures of her and her partner, and her kids. I wanted to know more about my niblings and about her. Esty responded telling me to leave her alone as she wasn't interested in forging a relationship with dad or 'the spawn of Satan'. I was offended at this and started asking her what dad had done for her to be so hostile
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    Font - On my way home from my job at the weekend, I dropped by the hospital where she works to see if she was there, to see if we could talk. Even if just for a minute. Esty saw me as she was leaving and got mad. I told her that I only wanted a minute to talk to her so I could find out more about my sister. She told me that I was just like dad and that I needed to leave her alone as she had no interest in forging a relationship with me. She told me that if I turned up again when I didn't need tr
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    Font - When I got home, I mentioned that I saw Esty to my parents but that she had threatened to call security. Mum told me that Esty maybe just needed time and I shouldn't have turned up at her work but dad thinks I did the right thing as Esty was being rude by pushing me away. AITA for turning up at my sister's work?
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    Font - Edit: I received a message this morning from my uncle (Dad's older brother who dad isn't close with). He had seen this post. Those of you who guessed that Dad left Esty and her mum for mine, were wrong. Apparently Dad wasn't nice to Esty and her mum, but it got worse after an accident when Esty was 13 which resulted in her losing a lot of her hearing and having to wear hearing aids. My uncle said that he had heard my dad refer to Esty as defective a few times because she was deaf. Esty's
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    Font - The following year, Dad went to prison for a year and when he was in prison her mum filed for divorce. They moved away. Dad and Esty used to keep in touch via letters (her's went to my uncle's because her mum didn't want him to know where they were), but when she turned 16 she stopped after Dad wrote her a letter telling her that he wanted her to keep away from him as my mum was expecting me and he didn't want 'her defectiveness to rub off on the new baby'. I didn't know my dad could be s
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    Font - 1.9 Away_Refuse8493 Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] YTA 20 hr. ago What you are doing is called "stalking" and while your dad may be "nice" to you and your mum, he never told you this whole time he had another child. He was a deadbeat, and possibly worse, to her. dad thinks I did the right thing as Esty was being rude by pushing me away. Your dad's opinion is meaningless. If he wanted for his children to have a relationship, he had 33 years to work on that. 2.9k Reply Share ...
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    Font - GamerGirlLex77 18 hr. ago edited 18 hr. ago For real. This behavior is alarming. I'm sorry that she doesn't want to know you but that does not mean you get to stalk her. I know it's harsh but please back off. YTA.
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    Font - I'm also curious as to why your dad kept this to himself for so long. This romanticized fantasy of having an older sister in your life is not reality. She's a stranger and she's asked you to leave her alone. All I see in your post is consideration for what YOU want. Esty's feelings have been repeatedly dismissed by you. You're lucky she doesn't get a restraining order. 736 Reply Share
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    Font - Kittenn1412 20 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] YTA. Look kid, sit down with me for a moment. Breathe, stay calm, relax. When you're done reading this comment, sit down and touch grass and think about it for a good while before deciding what to do next.
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    Font - What you are doing is called stalking, and it's a crime. The word for what you're doing is stalking. This woman is a complete stranger to you, no matter that you share genes. She is not your sister, her children are not your "niblings", she is a stranger. Who you stalked virtually and when she blocked you, escalated to stalking her in real life. You have been stalking a strange adult woman in real life. 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - MonarchOf Donuts 20 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [22] YTA: Esty told you what she wanted. You ignored that. By making a public spectacle of all this, you have burned whatever chance you might ever have had that, in time, she might choose to know you. You do not know your dad's history with Esty, and even though you personally have a good relationship with him, there are some red flags that strongly suggest he may not have been as cool with her as he apparently was with you. (#1 = his wi
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    Font - Also: You went by a hospital? Where this woman is trying to provide health care to people in crisis? That's a terrible job to swing by to uninvited even under much better circumstances than these.
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    Font - I understand your curiosity, but your immaturity and selfishness have burned that contact for a while to come, maybe forever. There is nothing you can do now except hope that someday, in her own time and for her own reasons, Esty will change her mind. If you go back to that hospital, she will be right to have security drag you out. Try to remember: Your needs do not invalidate her needs. 584 Reply Share

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